The number one reason people stay in bad relationships is the fear of being alone. However, working on your self-esteem and recognizing your value will help you realize that sometimes the best companion is yourself.
The Woman Post | Carolina Rodríguez Monclou
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Imagine any of these scenarios: You've lost your job, you are in a new city, or you are insecure about being alone. Many people stay in bad relationships because they desperately need to have someone, and the idea underneath that behavior is that something is better than nothing.
Another reason people stay in bad relationships is that there's an ultimate game beyond the person—for example, a financial payoff. Somehow being with this disagreeable partner that is not optimal brings you financial stability, a lifestyle, or an opportunity to have a great gain in the future.
Bear in mind that the longer you stay in a bad relationship, there will be a part of you that becomes accustomed to it. In fact, the scary part is when you adapt to that lifestyle, and you start to think it's normal.
Your goal should always focus on a better relationship with a partner that values and respects you. A person who treats you the way you'd like to be treated creates an environment where you can flourish. When you deny yourself all of these possible positive outcomes because of all of your fears, you are training yourself to consider your bad relationship a normal one.
Sadly, many people don't tend to move unless they have a lot of pain or desire. And those are the motivating factors that make someone make a change in their life.
You can be either so disgusted with where you are that you are motivated to make a change, or you are so uncomfortable that you can't bear it another day. If you stay in a bad relationship, you will start thinking that that's how it is supposed to be.
Human beings always make choices based on what they need to do next, and sometimes the best thing to do is to take a holdback of yourself and do the most uncomfortable thing: Move on in a different direction. To trust yourself and get out of the relationship that is not serving you, start developing the skills you hope to extract from your partner.
It's time for you to take your own life into your management, even if complicated situations surround you. Leaving all the fears in your head behind and being brave enough to reach out for help is one of the most efficient ways to grow and flourish.
If you have low self-esteem, you are more likely to think that you won't find anyone better if you leave your partner. However, that couldn't be further from the truth. A person who truly loves you will support you in your goals and let you shine.
Even if the thought of going into the dating process again can be a little tedious, remember that being single is also a good option. Take your time to heal and discover new things you are passionate about. Remember: It's not the end of the world to being alone; you still have your friends, family, and all the people that want the best for you.