Holding a Good Conversation, Key Social Skill

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The use of emoticons allows for expressing things that even with words cannot be described.

It has become a pictographic emotional language. In the same way, conversations have become more difficult and sometimes conflictive because by not expressing themselves verbally but rather in writing through text messages, there is room for misinterpretation and things are assumed that do not correspond. Starting a correct conversation with someone, hopefully in person, has a series of strategies that can bring us closer and recover affective ties, and more human bonds to recover our social skills.

How to establish a good conversation?

1. First, make eye contact. Know that multitasking is not entirely true, that there are sequential but not simultaneous tasks, because the brain cannot execute two tasks at the same time.

2. Be present in the here and now. Put your mobile device aside and pay attention to the person you interact with. Leaving your mobile aside will make the person you talk to feel how important it is to you. One of the most common situations today that is notably deteriorating interpersonal relationships is Phubbing, since ignoring another person for looking at the mobile phone hurts the interlocutor's self-esteem and denotes serious psychological and emotional disorders of the sender. The false feeling of the company due to permanent contact via mobile isolates the person from their environment and distances them from those who are present. So, if you want to establish a good conversation, agree with your interlocutor to put aside their mobile phones, to concentrate on the dialogue.

3. Open your mind to learning with anyone. If your attitude is one of openness, you will be willing to listen to understand and learn, but not to refute. Remember that in life you can find experts on some subject, and you can learn from them. A person with an open mind will always be willing to listen and learn from their interlocutor.

4. If you want to have real communication, open your heart, and listen. From there you can have compassionate listening and establish a sincere dialogue. Nothing is more pleasant for someone than meeting an empathic person willing to establish sincere and honest contact, even more so if it is a conversation with family or friends.

5. Ask open questions that allow your interlocutor to share their experiences, experiences, or feelings. This type of question allows you to expand information and allows you to continue the conversation more fluidly. A closed question will usually have a monosyllabic answer, which will make the conversation more rigid.

6. Express your ideas simply and clearly without going into too much detail, unless it is strictly necessary or your interlocutor requests it because you are not the only one who wants to communicate. Try to keep a common thread in the conversation and if you are going to change the subject, express it to your interlocutor and ask him if he wants to talk about the topic you propose, in this way you will make the conversation pleasant and friendly for both of you.

7. Show interest in the conversation. If you are sincerely interested in the conversation, your interlocutor will notice it and you will not have to make any effort to show it to him. The conversation will be pleasant and fluid and both of you will feel comfortable because it is something that you feel.

8. Be honest when dealing with a topic and if you don't know about it, ask, this will allow you to be authentic and sincere and learn. Do not talk about things you do not know or know, because if your interlocutor is knowledgeable about the subject, you will look ridiculous and will only demonstrate your ignorance on the subject. Allow your interlocutor to share his knowledge with you, so together you will benefit from the conversation.

9. If there is any topic with which you feel uncomfortable, express it assertively and avoid talking about issues that could hurt susceptibilities due to differences of opinion, on political, religious, or gender issues. Being assertive allows you to set appropriate limits in the conversation, which leads to respectful and constructive dialogue.

In conclusion, learning to communicate properly by re-establishing personal interaction allows us to recover the communication skills that improve personal, family, social, and work relationships, which develop assertive, affective, emotional, and social intelligence in human beings, and this is possible if we learn to establish a good conversation to recover our social skills.