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Temper tantrums are more common than you think and your young child is not exempt from suffering them. Here we show you how to act before one of these tremendous fits of bad humor
The two years are difficult for any child. For them, it is like going through a pre-adolescence in which they say no to everything and want to be independent. One of the stages through which all pass inexorably are tantrums.
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Next, we will tell you why tantrums occur and what you can do to avoid them.
What is the origin of tantrums?
According to the website El Bebé, everything is due to child opposition. This is a natural mechanism of the little ones that lead them to say no to absolutely everything their parents tell them. This leads to a fight between parents and child with the consequent tantrum that this causes. Most parents of children of 2 years, especially when they are new, do not understand the attitude of the child. This supposed early adolescence takes them unawares and they do not know how to act about it.
Tantrums appear at 2 years and disappear at 5. They are part of the evolutionary growth of children and all, at some point, pass through them.
How to deal with tantrums?
The Kids Health website gives us a series of tips that will help us calm the children when they start with a tantrum.
In the rare event that this happens, it is likely that you just need to tell him in a clear and firm voice to stop. Clarify that you know the reason for your anger but that you will achieve nothing by manifesting it that way. It is a way to promote your self-control simply and easily.
If, on the other hand, your child tends to present tantrums often, you should opt for another method to help him handle anger and frustration.
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These are some of the ideas you can put into practice:
Help your child to say in words what happens to him/her. If necessary, take him to a separate place and explain that in the house you can not throw things or scream all the time. Ask him to calm down and try to explain why he is acting that way. Although at 2 years it will be very difficult to tell you what happens clearly, a good idea is to offer some help with what happens.
When your child tells you what happened, offer help. In case you still do not know how to say it in words, point out what you think caused the bad mood and the tantrum. In this way, you can explain more clearly what is the cause of your bad mood.
Always listen to him. Your child needs understanding and they know the reason for their anger. Likewise, despite listening to him, you must make him understand that this behavior is wrong. You must be firm and calm by explaining that it will not do any good to throw tantrums, scream and throw things because that will not help you at all. Keep in mind that this must be said without screaming or looking threatening.
Knowing how to talk with your child is the first step to avoid tantrums. The second thing you must achieve is to understand the cause of your bad mood. If you get it, you will see that your child's tantrums will be more and more sporadic until they disappear completely.
LatinAmerican Post | Marcela Antonacci
Translated from "Mi hijo tiene rabietas, ¿qué hago?"