Raising a teenager is not an easy task. They want to be more independent and are more sensitive about comments related to their private life. Here are some tips to make your parenting more successful in the long haul.
The Woman Post | Carolina Rodríguez Monclou
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Many parents struggle to build a good relationship with their kids when they reach adolescence. The door of their room starts to be closed most of the time, and maybe they are more reserved about what they are going through. However, knowing how to accompany them with love and wisdom through this new stage of life in which they are finding who they are, it's crucial to guide them and encourage them to become mature and capable adults. The Woman Post brings you some tips for parenting teens.
-Remember, you're the parent: In this stage of life, teens start to flex their independent muscles, and they're starting to think maybe they even know more than you do as a parent. However, you still have to be the tone setter in the home, and you are the one who is leading your kids. Leave that clear.
-Lead with a plan: You start with a plan for any project you undertake, right? Well, parenting and supporting your child works the same way: You think about it in advance, including the supplies you'll need, the people involved, and the money required to set aside. You need to think about what you need to have to help your kids accomplish those goals. How will you support your teen in the activities that they care about? It would help if you saw parenting as a life project—the more prepared, the better.
-Listen to your teen: At this stage of their development, teens are starting to figure out their identity. They question who they are and begin to separate themselves from the family to be their own person. It's essential that they feel like you are showing them value, and you acknowledge how they are trying to mature and establish independence. It is crucial to have meaningful conversations with your teen, learn more about their heart, and understand how you can cultivate a better relationship with them. On the other hand, don't be scared about asking them about their fears, concerns, and the things they are excited about. Don't miss the opportunity to help them continue to grow and encourage them to step out in their own independence with correct boundaries.
-Have clear expectations: What's your teen's function and role in the home? Do they need to be babysitting younger siblings? What are the chores they need to take care of? Teens must have clear, drawn-out expectations to know what their parents expect from them and become functional adults.
-Discipline when needed: What happens if they don't meet your expectation? Discipline is essential, and it's good for you to think in advance about the consequences when certain expectations aren't met. Teaching through the results when rules are broken is extremely important in their personal development as independent people.
-Allow for some self-expression: Within safe bounds that you as parents decide, allow your kids to be themselves. For example, if they have a way they want to do their hair or change the way they dress, support them. Be open to ideas such as a piercing or a tattoo. Remember: You want to encourage them to start developing their identity and independence. However, you need to coach them through this process and help them along.